The Intimacy Pyramid

Creating connections that stand the test of time.


The intimacy pyramid is a model for relational restoration and growth that balances individual work and relational healing. It address the pain that can be experienced from an imbalanced relationship and locates the healing for both individuals within the relationship, facilitating healthy growth within the relationship.

We believe it’s vital for couples to build intimacy from a foundation of honesty, safety, trust, and vulnerability. All these pieces are critical to a thriving marriage.

Exploring relational depths

Through this exciting new book, we plan to explore what it means to build true relational intimacy, exploring both the concepts behind the different levels and practical applications for you and your loved one to begin diving deep with each other into new levels of relational intimacy.

Creating a lasting journey

Not only does this book allow you to go deep in your relationship, but it gives you the insight and tools to maintain this intimacy throughout the course of your lives. It will help create a solid foundation for lasting growth whether your relationship is one or one hundred years in the making.

“Building True Intimacy: Creating a Connection that Stands the Test of Time”, introduces a new model for healing and restoring relationships, the “Intimacy Pyramid.”

The Authors

Matthew Raabsmith

Matthew Raabsmith


Matthew is a Certified Professional Life and Relationship Coach who specializes in working with clients dealing with sex addiction and has over 15 years experience as a pastoral leader and counselor. He received his Masters of Divinity from Fuller Seminary and is trained in a variety of different client support modalities including Restoration Therapy and Positive Discipline Parenting. He currently works with clients as a pastoral counselor at North Coast Calvary Chapel as well as sees clients through his private practice.

Joanna Raabsmith

Joanna Raabsmith


Joanna is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist serving North County San Diego. She earned two graduate degrees from Fuller Theological Seminary, a Masters of Marriage and Family Therapy and a Masters of Divinity. She is trained in Restoration Therapy and Emotionally Focused Therapy. Joanna is also trained in EMDR and is a Certified Clinical Partner Specialist. Areas of special interest include working with couples going through recovery, relationship issues, trauma, addiction, self-esteem, anxiety, and spiritual issues.

Dan Drake

Dan Drake


Dan is a licensed clinician, a CSAT Supervisor, and a Certified Clinical Partner Specialist Supervisor. In his passion to help sex addicts, their partners, and families restore relational, mental, emotional, physical, and spiritual wholeness to their lives, Dan strives to provide a safe environment where his clients can grow and heal. And as a Christian raised in the church, he appreciates the impact faith can have, both positively and negatively. Dan uniquely blends his experience with addicts and partners to provide relational healing and integration through all phases of the treatment process.


“It is an absolute human certainty that no one can know his own beauty or perceive a sense of his own worth ​until it has been reflected back to him in the mirror of another loving, caring human being.”

John Joseph Powell

Dan Drake

Banyan Therapy Group

(818) 435-7847
Website: Banyan Therapy Group 

Matthew and Joanna Raabsmith

The Raabsmith Team

(626) 803-2236
Website: Raabsmith Team